[{"bf_titre":"Compatibility: The Real Key to Happily Ever After","bf_description":"{{attach file=\u0022IMG_4424624x6241.jpg\u0022 desc=\u0022\u0022 size=\u0022big\u0022 class=\u0022center\u0022 caption=\u0022image IMG_4424624x6241.jpg (0.1MB)\u0022 nofullimagelink=\u00221\u0022}}\r\nA friend recently told me something that dropped a bomb on my world:\r\n\r\n\u201cMy ex-husband and I had so much going for us \u2026 But the one thing that was missing was compatibility. We simply weren\u2019t compatible. We had so much of the other stuff, but without the compatibility we couldn\u2019t make it work.\u201d\r\n\r\nCompatibility \u2026\r\n\r\nI knew the word, of course. Everyone knows it and pretty much everybody who knows it knows what it means, too.\r\n\r\nFrom Websters: \u201cCapable of existing together in harmony.\u201d\r\n\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022== Sponsored Ads ==\r\nLooking For A Woman to Get Married? Try Loveawake Free Dating Site:  \r\n[[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=22 Find American Wife]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-Kingdom-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=22 Find British Wife Online Free]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/France-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=22 Looking for a Wife in France: Start Here]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Australia-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=22 Australian Wives For Dating]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Spain-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=22 Meet Spanish Wife]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Italy-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=22 I Want a Wife In Italy]]\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\r\nWhoa.\r\n\r\nIt\u2019s mighty impressive, you have to admit, this notion that you can be wholly in love with someone, connect with them in an infinite number of ways: hearts attached, sex spectacular, the two of you even laughing a lot at the others jokes all these years later, but still. All of that may never be enough.\r\n\r\nIt occurred to me that this was exactly the problem I had had in my own failed marriage of ten years. And in all the other serious relationships I\u2019d been involved in throughout my life, too.\r\n\r\nWe weren\u2019t compatible.\r\n\r\nI loved each one of them, there\u2019s no doubt about that. I loved them so hard that there was no shortage of tears on my part whenever I\u2019ve had to say goodbye.\r\n\r\nIt was always a mystery to me. But looking back now and seeing my marriage (and my other love affairs) through the very simple and clear lens of compatibility, I feel like someone just rolled a damn boulder off my big toe. I was suffering from the uncertainty of what had happened to me, to us. But now it makes so much sense.\r\n\r\nHey, this might seem like absolutely obvious stuff, I get that. [[https:\/\/lucynyuu69.com\/ Lucynyuu69 Nude Photos]]\r\n\r\nSo think what you want.\r\n\r\nRemember though, I overlooked it for a long time, and because of that I\u2019m guessing a lot of other people might be overlooking it as well. Listen, we can love another person with everything we\u2019ve got, but without compatibility, without that simple magic that allows two people to breath easy whenever they\u2019re together, love will always be an uphill climb.\r\n\r\nAnd what\u2019s the point of that, you know?","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-05-15","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-05-15","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CompatibilityTheRealKeyToHappilyEverAft","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_creation_fiche":"2025-05-15 15:28:12","statut_fiche":"1","date_maj_fiche":"2026-02-24 10:37:55","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"","longitude":"","geometries":""},"user":"178.158.206.126","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-05-15\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-05-15\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CompatibilityTheRealKeyToHappilyEverAft\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-05-15 15:28:12\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222026-02-24 10:37:55\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/aefa.yeswiki.pro\/?CompatibilityTheRealKeyToHappilyEverAft","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Great Books for Relationship and Divorce Advice","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42Lzscy Is Chivalry Dead or Perhaps Just Redefined?]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kcAxjy My Kindle Is Apparently a Dating Device]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RWCogi Turning Inner Geek into Geek Chic]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RQlkZg Handling Hurt Feelings in Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/44vjfcG How to Resolve Multilingual Dating]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/436YNwe Internet Dating \u2013 Sadly. I\u2019m A Bit Of An Expert]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RUe12M The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3EU7ORw Expectations: The Death of Love]]\r\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4k4SNuR How to Quit Mr. Wrong (Even If He\u2019s Good in Bed)]]\r\n\r\nI was recently asked what divorce advice books I read to help me cope with the end of my marriage. The answer might surprise you. While I did pick through several books written specifically for separating couples, I learned far more from books with a spiritual theme.\r\n\r\nHere are the top self-help and spiritual books that helped me get on with life after divorce and enter into healthy relationships.\r\n\r\nMom\u2019s House, Dad\u2019s House, by Isolina Ricci, PhD. This helped me get past the pain of separation to create a healthy co-parenting relationship with my ex-wife, and showed how to lay the foundations for successful two-home parenting, including setting limits and respecting roles. (The title inspired my blog\u2019s name.)\r\n\r\nCodependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, by Melody Beattie. Codependency is often associated with alcoholism, which isn\u2019t a factor with me or my ex. But codependency is a common problem in any emotionally addictive relationship. Failure to get past power struggles is a major reason many relationships fail. If the struggle is rooted in codependency, it takes awareness and strength to break free.\r\n\r\nThe Art of Happiness, by the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler. This book of Dalai Lama wisdom is different than the rest \u2013 it was co-written by a western psychologist. Eastern philosophies get explained in the context of American culture, which makes it a great introduction to Buddhism. The Dalai Lama says the purpose of life is to be happy, and the way to happiness is through compassion. For me, embracing this spiritual view of life has helped my relationships immensely.\r\n\r\nAnatomy of the Spirit, by Caroline Myss, PhD. When painful emotions and psychological problems are not dealt with properly, they manifest as dis-ease in the body. This book helps you understand physical pain in a spiritual sense. It offers a nice introduction to the chakras, comparing them to Christian doctrines and the Kabbalah\u2019s Tree of Life. (If nothing else, understanding the chakras can later help in your exploration of tantric sex. What\u2019s not to like about that?)\r\n\r\nA New Earth: Awakening to Your Life\u2019s Purpose, by Eckhart Tolle. I lied \u2013 I didn\u2019t read this during my divorce. I read his other book, The Power of Now. But I penned a review of A New Earth, so feel compelled to plug it again.\r\n\r\nI\u2019ve read tons more to help me heal after divorce including the Bhagavad Gita, the Tao, and books by authors like Thomas Moore, Rumi, Krishnamurti, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ken Wilber, Gary Zukav. And I listen to [[https:\/\/datemio.online\/ Datemio]]; their lyrics are based on Jungian psychology and spirituality. I\u2019m happy to discuss any of these in email, just send me a note.\r\n\r\nThe best divorce advice books are whatever resonate with you!","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-05-08","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-05-08","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"GreatBooksForRelationshipAndDivorceAdvice","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_creation_fiche":"2025-05-08 16:36:47","statut_fiche":"1","date_maj_fiche":"2026-02-24 10:37:00","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"","longitude":"","geometries":""},"user":"178.158.206.126","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-05-08\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-05-08\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022GreatBooksForRelationshipAndDivorceAdvice\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-05-08 16:36:47\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222026-02-24 10:37:00\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/aefa.yeswiki.pro\/?GreatBooksForRelationshipAndDivorceAdvice","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"Letting Other People Pick You\u2026 Not the best idea","bf_description":",","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-04-21","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-04-21","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"LettingOtherPeoplePickYouNotTheBestIde","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-21 17:42:47","statut_fiche":"1","date_maj_fiche":"2026-03-22 21:00:55","bf_geolocation":{"latitude":"","longitude":"","geometries":""},"user":"2a01:cb1d:909f:e600:39cf:cbcd:4a79:f765","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-04-21\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-04-21\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022LettingOtherPeoplePickYouNotTheBestIde\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-21 17:42:47\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222026-03-22 21:00:55\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/aefa.yeswiki.pro\/?LettingOtherPeoplePickYouNotTheBestIde","-is-external-":"0"},{"bf_titre":"My 30-Second Secret to a Happy Marriage","bf_description":"{{attach file=\u0022marriagebetterwife1.jpg\u0022 desc=\u0022\u0022 size=\u0022big\u0022 class=\u0022center\u0022 caption=\u0022image marriagebetterwife1.jpg (97.1kB)\u0022 nofullimagelink=\u00221\u0022}}\r\n\r\nAfter eight years of marriage I\u2019ve finally figured out the secret to magically wedded bliss. Are you ready for it?\r\n\r\n===It\u2019s to suck it up.===\r\n\r\nYou\u2019re disappointed, I know. You were expecting something awesome and amazing \u2014 something so good that you would never, ever think of it on your own.\r\n\r\nBut let me tell you, the foundation to a good marriage and partnership is found in the tiniest of places, even if that tiny place is putting the toilet paper back on the roll every. single. day. of said blissful marriage.\r\n\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022== Sponsored Ads ==\r\nLooking For Women For Marriage? Try Loveawake Free Dating Site:  \r\n[[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Guatemala-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=61 Guatemala Women Near You For Marriage]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Bosnia-And-Herzegovina-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=61 Find\u00a0Bosnia And Herzegovina Ladies For Marriage]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Mexico-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=61 Mexican Women For Marriage]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Japan-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026page=61 Japanese Girls Free Marriage Site]]\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\r\n\r\nI may sound like I\u2019m being facetious or flippant and I almost hate to admit that I\u2019m being entirely truthful, but it really is quite that simple. No, it won\u2019t solve all your problems or guarantee you\u2019ll never fight a day in your life, but you might be surprised at just how far it goes.\r\n\r\nAfter years (seriously) of being annoyed, aggravated, and irritated by tiny little habits of my husband\u2019s that simply drove me nuts, I finally discovered the solution.\r\n\r\n===Take care of those things myself.===\r\n\r\nThat may sound like I\u2019m being weak or walked over or resorting to a housewife-like role, but the way I see it, there are two options. Option one is the one I went with for so long, (because I married a grown-up, I told myself) where I sit and fume and let the irritation build up until I explode over the most ridiculous of things. The dishes are sitting in the sink un-rinsed, the clothes are in the middle of the floor, the cereal box is in the pantry wide open. I\u2019d yell and berate and sometimes cry, I was so frustrated. I couldn\u2019t understand why a fully capable adult couldn\u2019t handle these minuscule responsibilities.\r\n\r\nThen one day, I was in an exceptionally charitable mood and instead of making a mental tally of all the things my husband had done wrong (read: not my way) that day, I simply took care of them myself. I put the toilet paper on all the holders, tucked the dishes out of sight in the dishwasher, and tossed the forgotten trail of dirty clothes into the hamper.\r\n\r\nAnd then I simply forgot about it.\r\n\r\nIt\u2019d taken 30 seconds of my time and energy and it was done with. No getting mad or begrudging yet another thing I had to do. It just was, and then it was over. Then even more pleasant, I found that my husband annoyed me less. That sounds terrible, I know, but unless you\u2019re one of the few exceptions who has a husband who picks up after himself, you know what I mean.\r\n\r\nSuddenly I was able to see all the things he does do again. The way he stops to wrestle with our son even though he\u2019s late on his way out the door or how the lawn is always mowed and the doors are always locked before bed.\r\n\r\nWhen the underlying resentment and annoyance was eliminated and alleviated, it allowed all the good to shine through. And to me, that\u2019s worth rewashing yet another load of forgotten wet laundry.\r\n\r\n1. [[https:\/\/training.coursekey.com\/eportfolios\/2543\/Home\/My_Experience_as_a_ShortTerm_Sugar_Baby My Experience as a ShortTerm Sugar Baby]]\r\n2. [[https:\/\/lms.macnet.ca\/eportfolios\/4935\/Home\/Online_Dating_for_Seniors_What_You_Need_to_Know Online Dating for Seniors What You Need to Know]]\r\n3. 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