aefa.yeswiki.pro : Letting Other People Pick You… Not the best idea

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Do you find yourself “falling for” the first person to show you interest? It seems that you are not alone.

I’ve heard from guys who find themselves “in relationship” with women they don’t even really like and women who are dating men that they never in a million years would consider someone to take home and meet the family. People of all walks waking up suddenly to find that they are indeed, someone who settled. Ahhh, the plague of letting other people pick you!

Sometimes it comes from your “picker” being off. Other times boredom. But usually, those conditions are just that — conditional. When it gets to a self esteem level, it becomes more than conditional, it becomes a serious stumbling block in the way of living your best life possible.
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For someone coming out of a hard break up or a long dating drought period, this is more of a hazard than you might suppose. Low self-esteem leads to all kinds of disasterous dating decisions and desperation is even worse. When a dater is trying to fill in some sort of hole in their heart with another person, they are attempting to use that person to bring happiness when in the words of Thoreau — the only person who can make you happy is… you.

So, we all know the problem, but what’s the solution? I think I’m going to fall back on some wisdom handed down generationally in my family to answer this one… stop being passive and letting people pick you. Be a part of the process.

Easy, right? Some of you will snort and say, “Well, duh Kelli.” But for some of you, let this sink in… you are a part of the selection process. You get to pick someone and not just wait for another person to like you first. It will feel uncomfortable and even mean at times to those of you used to just responding to anything that comes your way, but trust me when I tell you that it gets easier. As you one by one, make healthy decisions for yourself and pick/respond only to people that fit what you are looking for, you’ll find less and less dating drama along the way.

====The Challenges:====

- Feeling like you are pricing yourself out of the market. By being selective, you might have a few more lonely Friday nights. But remember — quality is what you want to hold onto, so cutting someone loose because they aren’t a fit for you, just means you keep your dating pipeline open for better matches.

- Rejection. Yup, you are going to face rejection. Sometimes the people you “pick” won’t pick you back. Other times, people will make fun of you or even get mad about your new standards. Surrounding yourself with a support group who wants only the best for you might be a really good idea if you feel like a lone soldier at the front.

- Self esteem. If you are used to other people filling your esteem tank, you are going to run empty after a few weeks of this. Before that happens, start filling your own tank by developing your life and your self around what and who you want to be. When your self-esteem comes from within, no one but you can take that away.

- Remembering that if you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time. Most successful people did not just stumble into their success. They got inspired, made a plan and focused on what they wanted to achieve. And when they got it, they didn’t sit back on their laurels, they continued nurturing their dream. Do the same thing for your dating life. Aim for something and shoot!

- Changing unhealthy patterns in yourself. As you shift your selection process, you’ll start to notice that you attract people at the same level as you in many ways. If you don’t like the “losers” you attract, the answer may be as simple as looking into yourself to see what “loser” qualities you are exhibiting. Ouch. I know. This one is perhaps the hardest and takes the most honesty, vulnerability to friends/therapist/family who might help you see clearly, and determination to change. No one expects you to be perfect, but the more you are aware and willing to make changes, the more you will attract non-loser people.

Its another — not easy, but worth it post. But I have yet to meet someone who really wants to settle for whatever comes along.

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